Reading through 1 Samuel chapter 18 through to chapter 20, you will come across one of the most beautiful love stories in the Bible. As the son of King David, I’m pretty sure that Solomon had heard the story about the bromance between David and Jonathan. So when I read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, I can’t help but think of the two of them.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
– Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
When David was about to be killed by his best friends dad, his best friend risked his life to save him. When David fell down and was weeping because he was scared that he was about to die, Jonathan wept with him and helped him up. Though David was being overpowered by Saul, Jonathan was able to help him withstand him. One of the most beautiful things about their friendship is that God was the third cord that held them together (see, 1 Samuel 20:23).
What I love about Danathan/Jovid (I’m not sure how to refer to the bromance), is their loyalty to one another. They had each other’s best interests at heart. They were truly for each other. That might sound like a strange point to make but it must be noted. Not everyone who you consider to be a friend is really for you, Christian or not. It is so crucial to surround yourself with friends who challenge you to grow in every area of your life, particularly spiritually. Friends who aren’t afraid to be honest with you. Have you ever seen talent show auditions and just thought to yourself, ‘where are those people’s friends?’ Friendships aren’t just about compliments. “Open rebuke is better secret love (Proverbs 27:5).” I’ve had to come to the understanding recently that I don’t have as many haters as I thought and that I’m just not funny.
Friends who pray for you are great. One thing that I have truly valued are also my friends who have encouraged me to pray. When I first got saved, I found my Christian friends to be a bit annoying. It’s like, if I ask you a question, I’m expecting an answer. Don’t ask me ‘have you spoke to God about it.’ I’m speaking to you about it. But what I’ve realised is that those moments forced me to grow closer to God. Now it just happens naturally.
David and Jonathan brought out the best in one another. The love that they had for one another was so pure. They cried for one another. They had a covenant that lasted for generations. Their friendship was held together by God and it strengthened them.